I used to work as a Behavior Technician and witnessed the impact that a mother's lack of confidence had on her children. If you lack confidence in yourself and your decisions for your child, you can be easily influenced by their emotions. Children are emotional, which is not necessarily a negative thing, but they need to learn to control them.
If you aren’t confident in yourself, you might notice that you have a tendency to give in to them and what they want after setting a boundary. It’s important for you to stand firm in a boundary that you set or they will feel your word isn’t firm and is subject to change. Additionally, they will not be able to effectively control themselves later on in life without understanding a healthy boundary.
Parents may observe kids displaying disrespect when they lack confidence in setting boundaries. That’s not to say that when a boundary is set, you can’t help them through it. If possible offer them comfort through the process. Sometimes our standards may be too high as humans, so we need to adjust the boundary to meet their needs and help them progress.
Be confident in yourself as a mother.
This might be the most important foundation you can have for parenting. If you don’t believe in yourself and who you are as a mother, your children’s behavior will be your side effect. Do what it takes to make sure you are built up and then you can properly raise your child in love. You cannot love without first being grounded in love, to quote a famous person.
That’s just the truth and no matter how selfless you want to be in loving your children, you can only go so far before you burn out and notice bad fruit. You might beat yourself up about it and feel worse which makes you act out even more on your children. Love yourself, give yourself what you need and be gracious to yourself. Loving yourself allows you to love without striving and compulsion.
If you make a mistake, there is always redemption. Make the mistake boldly and boldly compensate for it. It’s okay to be wrong, we are going to make a lot of mistakes but we are also going to continue growing.All you really need is help understanding yourself sometimes. Be bold, be yourself, be free and you will grow and mature just like your children.
BE yourself and BE confident in that! There is only one of YOU.